Beautifully Broken

Let’s just be real: sometimes it is VERY hard to be content with just you.

Fully you and only you.

Over the course of my life, I have adopted and copied attributes/ideas/styles from those I’ve looked up to and admired. It started with wanting to be just like my mom, or my youth group leader, or the “popular girl” in my middle school and it didn’t stop in High School. I’d like to say that it has stopped “post-school”, but truth is, it has only escalated. I’ve realized that the admiration I had in my childhood has evolved into comparison rooted in deep insecurity. I know I’m not the only one who does this to themselves, but it is a lonely road nevertheless.
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The road to self-discovery can seem like a never-ending road to nowhere (Just being honest here). I think this is something we all do. Maybe consciously or sub-consciously, but in one way or another we feel the need to look around, analyze and then adjust accordingly.
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We see others be so successful at “being just them” and in turn think, “Well, maybe they are the key…maybe if I can just be more like them…”. But I can guarantee you that they didn’t become that way through the efforts of trying to be someone else.
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So why do we do it?
Why do we change and change and change to the point where it becomes difficult to recognize ourselves?
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We look at the attributes of those we admire and messily attempt to copy and paste them on ourselves in hopes that we too can be amazing and free…but that is never going to work. Ever. It’s a heavy (and self-inflicted) burden to carry upon yourself the copies of those you aspire to become like. Trust me. Very easily, this admiration  (which turns to comparison) leads to insecurity, which leads to envy which turns into bitterness. Soon enough you find yourself disliking the very person you admired! No one wins!
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 “Comparison breeds contempt and jealousy and that never makes for a truly beautiful life; it makes for an angry, depressed, dreary life. As far as I know, nobody wants that. During times like this, it is imperative to remind myself that I am unique and so is everyone else. Sure they’re life may look phenomenal but they’re human too. God never created us to be carbon copies of one another, He created us to break the mold.” – Bridgy Colleen
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We aren’t made to copy and paste others lives onto our own. All that will do is suffocate who God made us to be. You disservice the world by burying your beauty under the lives of others.
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So…how do we end this? How do we free ourselves from this trap of envy and comparison?
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You lavish yourself in TRUTH. Yes TRUTH. Bathe in it, breathe it in, let it wash you clean of every angry thought towards yourself. Let it free you from comparison to those you once admired. Here is the truth:
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1. People are equally broken and trying to discover who they are.
2. God is beautiful therefore you are beautiful.
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The pressure that we place on ourselves to be perfect is washed away when we remember that everyone is broken and redeemed by our God.
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1. People are equally broken

 “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” – Romans 3:23

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Sometimes it helps me to look at what a verse isn’t saying.
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This verse doesn’t say:
“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God except: those who have a great sense of style and an amazing wardrobe; those who sing every note on pitch; those capable of running for miles or climbing mountains; and the finale exception, those who have Instagram husbands.” NO.
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This verse does say:
“For ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (emphasis added)
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All means everyone. No exceptions and no exemptions.
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“I love the eventual deconstruction of preconceived opinions, the demolishing of pedestals you’ve put people on. The painfully obvious realization that at the end of the day, the beginning too, people are just people. We are all just awkward and searching for so much kindness” – Katharine Griffin

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Preconceived opinions and pedestals are crushed by the truth that people are just people. Broken, awkward and searching for who God made them to be. So allow yourself to believe that: everyone is broken and no one is capable of reaching His perfection.

2. God is beautiful therefore you are beautiful.

“…and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus” – Romans 3:24

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The first half of this passage talked about how we are all broken and fallen, but the beauty of God is that we have redemption from our brokenness. Because of the beauty that resides in the gift of Jesus, we have also been made beautiful.
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“God uniquely created your DNA and knit your frame in secret so he could surprise the world. He authored how your heart expresses itself; he was the architect of your smile and the melody of your voice; he made all of your features with the fondest thoughts of only you in mind. He celebrated along with your parents your first smile and watched with affection your first steps. Because of this tender, intentional care,there are multiple facets of your life that express and reflect his love uniquely….There is no greater way to bring out what is unique in you than to pursue Him.” – Without Rival
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Guess what?! Heaven lives in you. At your very core you are beauty, not because your appearance proclaims it or your Instagram photos capture it… you are beauty because He says you are…and because He is.
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When insecurity hits you like a brick wall, speak (yes aloud so the enemy can hear you) these truths of God about you…
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“Because He is love, I am loved and I can love
Because He is life, I am alive
Because He is able, I am capable
Because He is my brother, I am God’s Daughter
Because He is almighty, I am mighty
Because He is healer, I am healed
Because He is wisdom, I am wise
Because He is, I am
Because of who He is, I am who He says I am
I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”- Without Rival
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For these reasons alone you are beautiful. For these reasons alone others are beautiful.
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Next time you begin to feel the weight of your comparison and insecurities, wash it off with the truth that everyone is beautifully broken and redeemed by the same loving God.
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Featured Photo By: Kenzie Barden

2 thoughts on “Beautifully Broken

  1. Such a beautiful reminder. I often wonder, “who exactly did God created ME to be?” For as long as I can remember, I have tried SO hard to change God’s creation. Completely losing my true self. But, I trust that leaning into the Heavenly Father will little by little bring out the one & only me He intended for me to be.

    The quotes from Lisa’s book hit me hard. So true but so hard to comprehend and accept.

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