Sometimes God’s “no” forces us to walk in a more treacherous kind of faith. God uses our humiliation and disappointment in the “no” to grow us more than a “yes” ever could.
I don’t mean the kind of humiliation that comes with accidentally liking someone’s Instagram post 155 weeks deep in stalker mode, or the kind of disappointment you experience when you forget to ask for your latte iced and you end up with a steaming mug in the middle of July – I’m talking about the kind of humiliation that comes when we stand face to face with our pride and the kind of disappointment that comes when we pour everything into something and the answer is “no”.
HUMILIATION / PRIDE
Definition: a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements – the quality of having an excessively high opinion of oneself or one’s importance.
Biblical Definition: arrogance – inordinate self-esteem; an unreasonable conceit of one’s own superiority. (biblegateway)
Isaiah 2:12 “the Lord Almighty has a day in store for all the proud and lofty, for all that is exalted, and they will be humbled.” – When pride is abounding, The Lord promises that we will be humbled, and we don’t get to choose how or when.
Definition: the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfillment of ones hopes or expectations.
Biblical Definition: sadness experienced when people or circumstances do not fulfill expectations (biblegateway)
Luke 24:20-21 “…our chief priests and rulers gave Him up to be sentenced to death, and crucified Him. But we were hoping that it was He Who would redeem and set Israel free. Yes, and besides all this, it is now the third day since these things occurred.” – Now imagine the disappointment of the disciples and compare it to yours. The man they expected to redeem and free their nation was buried in a tomb (so they thought)… but how little did they know – and how little do we know what lies ahead of our disappointment…
By hearing an answer we don’t expect, God is able to creep in and reveal to us the things we need to get rid of.
For me… that was pride. There was no doubt in my mind that the answer to my long awaited question would be “yes”… simply because, well, I was me. Up until this point, the “yes” answers seemed to be all I heard (these “yes”answers were from God and were a result of His favor) but they ended up creating pride in my heart. I was comfortable asking God for the big and impossible because so far all I knew was “yes”.
When the “no” Came
I remember the sinking feeling of being rejected. I remember the fear that began to creep in telling me that “no” was my new “yes”. I began to question other dreams I had and let fear replace my faith in those dreams.
It wasn’t until a few weeks later that I began to realize what was happening. God had to give me a “no” in order to force me into a more treacherous faith. My faith had become too comfortable because of the “yes” answers I was hearing before. Because of the disappointing answer, I realized that I hadn’t fully given Him my trust.
Treacherous: hazardous because of hidden or unpredictable dangers
Faith: complete trust or confidence in someone or something
Hebrews 11:1 & 6 “now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see – and without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him”
When the outcome is unknown, we are reminded how much greater our God is than us. Through knowing this, our faith has no choice but to become more treacherous. It forces us to rely more on Him than on our own abilities. It forces us to be okay with the possible disappointment, because we now see the good that can manifest within the “no”.
Everything we go through has a holy purpose. Even the “no”. So be encouraged knowing that even through your greatest humiliation and disappointment God is creating in you a more beautiful and treacherous faith.
Romans 8:28 “and we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to his purpose.”